Add specific PSQL instructions for clarity

What does this MR do?

This document change clarifies exactly what a user must do when setting up an external PSQL database with GitLab.

We currently link the user to this page https://docs.gitlab.com/ee/administration/high_availability/gitlab.html, but we give no instructions on what information is relevant to them (just the PSQL stuff). To simplify this, lets add the relevant information to this page.

Please note I have added postgresql['enable'] = false to the instructions which will disable the bundled PSQL.

Related issues

Author's checklist (required)

• Follow the Documentation Guidelines and Style Guide.
• If you have developer access or higher (for example, GitLab team members or Core Team members)
  • Apply the documentation label, plus:
    • The corresponding DevOps stage and group label, if applicable.
    • development guidelines when changing docs under doc/development/*, CONTRIBUTING.md, or README.md.
    • development guidelines and Documentation guidelines when changing docs under development/documentation/*.
    • development guidelines and Description templates (.gitlab/*) when creating/updating issue and MR description templates.
  • Assign the designated Technical Writer.

When applicable:

• Update the permissions table.
• Link docs to and from the higher-level index page, plus other related docs where helpful.
• Add GitLab's version history note(s).
• Add the product tier badge.
• Add/update the feature flag section.
• If you're changing document headings, search doc/*, app/views/*, and ee/app/views/* for old headings replacing with the new ones to avoid broken anchors.

Review checklist

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1. Primary Reviewer

• Review by a code reviewer or other selected colleague to confirm accuracy, clarity, and completeness. This can be skipped for minor fixes without substantive content changes.

2. Technical Writer

• Optional: Technical writer review. If not requested for this MR, must be scheduled post-merge. To request for this MR, assign the writer listed for the applicable DevOps stage.
  • Add Technical Writing and docs:: workflow label.
  • Add docs-only when the only files changed are under doc/*.

3. Maintainer

1. Review by assigned maintainer, who can always request/require the above reviews. Maintainer's review can occur before or after a technical writer review.
2. Ensure a release milestone is set.
3. If there has not been a technical writer review, create an issue for one using the Doc Review template.