Observe secondary email addresses when adding a member

What does this MR do?

• Current behavior:
  • When a secondary email of an existing user is used on an invite, the user record is not found and the member is created as an 'invite' w/o user association.
• Desired behavior(what this MR does):
  • When a secondary email of an existing user is used on an invite, find the user and associate the user record to the member. Do not treat as an 'invite'.

Note Currently the UI has validations/tokenization that prevents secondary emails from being used on invites, but the API and other non UI use does not. This closes that gap.

Does this MR meet the acceptance criteria?

Conformity

• I have included a changelog entry, or it's not needed. (Does this MR need a changelog?)
• I have added/updated documentation, or it's not needed. (Is documentation required?)
• I have properly separated EE content from FOSS, or this MR is FOSS only. (Where should EE code go?)
• I have added information for database reviewers in the MR description, or it's not needed. (Does this MR have database related changes?)
• I have self-reviewed this MR per code review guidelines.
• This MR does not harm performance, or I have asked a reviewer to help assess the performance impact. (Merge request performance guidelines)
• I have followed the style guides.

Availability and Testing

• I have added/updated tests following the Testing Guide, or it's not needed. (Consider all test levels. See the Test Planning Process.)
• I have tested this MR in all supported browsers, or it's not needed.
• I have informed the Infrastructure department of a default or new setting change per definition of done, or it's not needed.

Security

Does this MR contain changes to processing or storing of credentials or tokens, authorization and authentication methods or other items described in the security review guidelines? If not, then delete this Security section.

• Label as security and @ mention @gitlab-com/gl-security/appsec
• The MR includes necessary changes to maintain consistency between UI, API, email, or other methods
• Security reports checked/validated by a reviewer from the AppSec team

Related to #329319