Only call fetch list items in graphql boards when list is not collapsed

What does this MR do?

When loading issue boards and a list is collapsed we do not need to be fetching the list items until the user intends to open the list.

Setup

• Feature.enable(:graphql_board_lists)
• Go to an issue board or epic board (this does not work on swimlanes atm and not sure if we want to do this there)

Screenshots (strongly suggested)

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