Strong validate used config names in `database.yml` and normalize legacy config

What does this MR do?

References:

• related to: #336566 (closed)
• subset of: !62092 (closed)

This achieves a few goals:

• ensures that only main, ci can be used
• ensures that no replica: true is used
• ensures that legacy config is properly transformed to use main: (normalized)
• ensures that main: is a first entry in a list

I did not find any other method than this. The Rails does not make it easy to define a default name being used, like primary.

This is supposed to be short-living change, and the one that we will not be affected when running on production: since we already migrated to main:.

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