Properly reload Patroni on config change

What does this MR do?

It changes the notification sent to runit_service[patroni] from reload to hup, thus using sv hup ... instead of sv force-restart ....

Related issues

#6420 (closed) and https://gitlab.com/gitlab-com/gl-infra/infrastructure/-/issues/14274

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